Life can knock us down a couple of times before we reach our haven. There’s no wonder that some people choose to give up while there are others who choose to shift to a different path. Pursuing our dreams can be really stressful. We don’t always get the result that we want, and it’s not all the time that people appreciate our hard work.
Even if you give it your all, there will still be people who’ll think that it wasn’t enough, and they’ll criticize you for it. They’ll say harsh things like “you should have done it my way” or “why couldn’t you be like your sister” and things like that. Being the one who did all the effort, those words can really cut deep. It can make us think that we’re not cut out for what we’re doing. The worst part is we’ll feel that we’re not good enough, that we’re insufficient.
These are the things that get us down the most, only to find out later in our lives that we could have made things better if only we had the courage to move on despite our struggles. That being said, we should just shrug things off, but it’s not like it’s that simple. However, these are the reminders that we should be telling ourselves whenever we feel like other people are trying to get us down.
Natural talent is a myth
Artists aren’t made. They’re born. With that, don’t ever tell yourself that you’re not good enough. Even the famous people that we adored have gone through the same trials that we’re going through now.
If you want to be successful, then you have got to go through the same painful process, just like other successful people have gone through. Sure, there are loads of people who were already born with potential, but potential doesn’t equate to talent. Potential is having the ability, whereas talent means having mastered the art. Don’t worry. We’re all born with potential. It just so happens that the potential is more evident in some people than in others. Some people discover their potential a bit earlier. That’s all. This is also the reason why we shouldn’t refrain from trying out new things. You might be good at one thing, but you never know when you’ll find your real passion, your real underlying potential.
To be good at something you have to love the process
This article is all about being on the right track so first thing's first: how do we know we’re on the right track? Well, a sure fire sing that you’re in the right direction is if you love what you do. Whether we admit it or not, we always strive to perfect our art. None of what we do is ever good enough for us. It’s the opinion of other people that is why we realize that we are good at something. Even so, compliments shouldn’t be the reason why we do the things we do. Why? When something bad comes our way, we’ll only end up quitting, and hating everybody else. And even if we do manage to thrive in the industry, we’ll still end up unhappy. You know what? When you’re happy doing the things you do, and that should be enough reason for you to keep on doing it. First of all, we only love doing the things we’re good at. Second, if you really want to be better at something and then you have got to love it. If you don’t, and then it’s either you end up miserable or you end up quitting.
Negativity and positivity can both be bad
We all know the downsides of being too negative. You’ll get too intimidated to try out new things. You’ll never discover your inner passion. Even if you already did, you’ll never find a way to get better at it. It’s a never ending cycle. You find a new opportunity, and then you ignore it because of some personal doubts.
Do you think you’re confident? Well, not so fast. It’s also the same with too much positivity. Being too positive that things will work out can also keep you from staying on the right track. When we’re too positive, we feel like nothing can go wrong, and as a result, we don’t exert effort anymore. We become lazy, believing that we’re already good enough as it is, that we don’t need to work harder. We’ll just be spending years and years doing nothing, and it’ll be too late when we realize that we should have done something with our life.
Never be dismissive of things you don’t understand
We’ve all heard of the saying “ignorance is bliss”, but I don’t agree. The reason people say this is because when you don’t understand much of what’s going on, and then they won’t have to be bothered by the issues and problems surrounding them whereas people who are more aware are the ones who bear all the problems. There is even a bunch of article all over the internet stressing how intelligent people can never be happy. But this is an overstatement in this case.
We’re often used to dismissing cases we don’t even understand. For example, we conclude that we don’t like someone just because we think he’s weird, but what is weird? Being weird simply means “not like you”. So, if that’s the case, it’s a broad description. In other words, we really have no clue what he is like. We just conclude because we can’t accept the fact we don’t understand.
If we develop a mentality like this, and then we’re doomed to be haunted by it even if we’re already looking for a career. We’ll end up dismissing good job opportunities just because we never got to look at the full picture.
Get comfortable not having an opinion
Don’t get me wrong. We’re all entitled to our opinion. Nevertheless, an opinion is still an opinion. It has no basis. It’s not factual. It’s something made up by your own mind. It may be hard for some people to believe, but opinions have its consequences. Why? Well, because it blinds us from seeing the whole picture. We become bounded to our personal perspective that we forget to open to what’s real.
Who knows? You might have met that one person that could have changed your entire career, but you shove him off because of that one opinion.
Patrick works as a contributor at https://essaytwist.com/. He is a former editor of a small town newspaper publishing. He is an avid fan of social media, and runs his own page for writing enthusiasts for his college. With the rising clamor for healthy living, Patrick immersed himself with water sports.